I remember when I first got pregnant with my first child, I was so excited. I had fun picking out her name, the nursery, toys, and clothing. My mind was so busy and blissful, but once she was born, there was a shift from not only excitement but also fear as well. My biggest fear was making sure she would never have anyone hurt her or destroy her joy. I know I can not control everything. In Romans 8:18 says "Encourages that present suffering is temporary compared to future glory." Now that I am older and a little wiser, people need to go through hard times to make themselves stronger. Also, in those hard times, just give it to God; He will never steer you wrong.
Another fear that was and still is big is dying and leaving my kids behind. When I was young, I thought nothing of death because you think I thought I had a long time before that. Becoming a parent changes your perspective. You start to realize it could happen. When your parent with faith, you know God can call you home to heaven whenever he wants. I know I will be with God in heaven watching my children, but I just can't protect them. I just have to believe and make sure I instill all the ways God wants my children to live by. So I am making sure to talk to them about how Jesus wants you to live. I pray with my children and encourage them to pray to God all the time, not just when they are struggling. This past year, I actually had to help my daughter. She kept having Dad dreams, and she always wanted to sleep with me and did not want to sleep in her bed. So to start, I let her sleep with me, and just before bed, I would have her repeat this prayer, "Dear God, please be with me as I go to sleep. Please help me not have bad dreams, keep me safe. Not today, Satan, I am a child of God. I love you Lord! Amen." The next morning, she told me that prayer worked. So every night she would say Mommy, let's say our prayer. Then, after a couple of days, she said her prayer out loud by herself. This brought a huge smile to my face. And a couple of months later, her brother was starting to have bad dreams, so she lay in his bed and taught him the prayer I taught her.
Another fear I had was what if my kids don't like me or think I am mean. I knew before getting pregnant that I was going to be a parent, not a friend. I need to establish rules and boundaries. I did not want to raise spoiled or entitled kids. At first, it was hard to do this, but I stuck to my guns, and my kids respect me to this day. Yes, do they say I am mean? They sure do, but they both love and adore their mommy. I try to talk in a respectful tone, and I also let them speak about how they are feeling as long as they stay respectful. Being a mom is hard work and scary, but if you have God in your heart and put him first and instill Him in your children right away, the battle won't be as hard as if you did not have him.
I encourage you to write a comment about a fear you had when becoming a mother. Remember, this is a no-judgement safe space. Until the next post, all the moms out there, you are doing an amazing job, and God bless.
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